About

Like many couples who enjoy BDSM, we’ve run into difficulties finding our balance…

We began with some simple fantasy role play, and quickly, hungrily progressed towards more because Blackie is naturally a strong, Dominant male and while I am a feminist (with a highly successful business to boot) I am, in romantic partnerships with men, naturally a pain slut with a girlie streak to please.

While it was easy for our sexual & relationship needs to mesh, we eventually ran into the usual problems…

* me acting up just to get spankings/punishments/attention…

* which just led to Blackie feeling that my sex drive & needs were driving our relationship as opposed to his wishes and wants (he got angry — and denied me what I desired!)

* creating ways in which the envelope could be pushed, both physically & emotionally, to increase thrills for Blackie

* finding ways to safely, sanely & consensually implement D/s into our lifestyle — without destroying the balance of our individual rights & freedoms, which, if not respected, can break lines of trust.

This blog, especially posts marked The Path, journals of all of that.